Saturday, January 31, 2009
Politically Incorrect Parenting
Knitters and Conservatives can skip this. Recently a friend discovered their 13 year old son looking at skin online. You know what kind. The kind that I can't type the word or I'll get scurvy on my blog. My friend grounded the boy and restricted him from the computer. I started thinking about how best to be pro-active with this whole new set of stuff. I feel like we are cresting a wave that we need to learn to surf together. Thank god the kid is just starting to use Axe bodywash, and still streaks through the house bare-ass. I still have a little time. So this morning he told me about some video he listened to on youtube from buckethead called creepy songs. Serial killer crap. Although stuff like that gives me the skeeves, I pulled it up. Not as good as MY serial killer music, of course, but definately creepy.
So I sat him down and gave him a politically incorrect lesson that I like to call "How to surf for p8rn without infecting your computer"
I told him that he was at an age when serial killers, crazy violent stuff and possibly sex would be in his face a lot. I told him that there is an underbelly of humanity, a sick part that people can get sucked into, and that its always there just like the regular parts and the good parts. I told him that it is normal to be interested in things that are weird or unknown.
I told him to be careful because too much violence, or skin, will rot his brain. Then I showed him how to google the pictures, and set the filters, and how not to click on the teen and kiddie links and how not to go to the sites themselves, how to avoid the viruses, and just see the images. We went over the rules about questions, how he could ask me or his Dad about things he doesn't understand and that if is not comfortable doing that he could ask the following friends... etc.
Then I listened to Puddle of Mud a few times. Ok ten times. And decided to post. I think my parenting style is definately not normal, but its a new and scarier world, and normal might be broken. I go with what works in my head.